The most interesting Journey in my life

The most interesting Journey in my life

In 2010, I met a man from Germany. He was one of the special foreign students at Bogazici University but at that time I didn’t know that he would be also special for me. Although he was a Turkish-German boy, he didn’t speak Turkish fluently when we met. So the first communication between us started in English. However, it had never been very well even though we started to talk in Turkish. Thus, I had just realized the importance of sharing a common language while communicating. He had stayed in Turkey for 6 months. During that time, I had learned how to communicate with him but it destroyed my Turkish grammar.=)

On the other hand, it was difficult not to have a common culture. We had lots of difficulties and conflicts in the communication. Because in Turkey, people-especially women- say what they want or what they think indirectly, I was really shocked sometimes about what he said.

One other conflict was the difference in hospitality. After he offered me something and I said “no, thank you” to show how kind I am, there weren’t second chance to say yes because he didn’t ask twice. Turkish people are really insistent on it especially when they host someone. Although he hated drinking tea, he had to drink tea many times in Turkey to accompany with me. However, I couldn’t convince him to drink Turkish coffee but I told him that he would have to drink if he wanted to marry with a Turkish girl.

One day, he told me that he kicked the back of a taxi because the taxi driver had infracted the right of pedestrians. Of course, I said that all Turkish people were supposed to say: “Don’t do that again! Taxi drivers are the last person to fight in Turkey.”

Lucky to us, we were both open to different opinions. Thus, we created a bond between us by sharing ideas about almost anything. It was something like I couldn’t do it before with so many Turkish people although we all shared the same language.

Finally, I want to say that it doesn’t matter to live in the different countries for the one who you want to be with, or not to share a common language or culture while you are together. It does matter that how you see the situations: In the former, you are lucky to have someone you want to be with; in the latter, you are lucky to have the one next to you!

2011

blue Valentine

" I don't know, I just feel like I should just stop thinking about it, you know, but I can't. Maybe I've seen too many movies, you know, love at first sight. What do you think about love at first sight? You think you can love somebody just by looking at them? But the thing is man, I felt like I knew her, you ever get that feeling? Yeah, I probably don't right... it felt like I did though"

"She just seems different, you know? I don't know, I just got a feeling about her. You know when a song comes on and you just gotta dance? "

"I like how you can compliment and insult somebody at the same time, in equal measure."

"I can't really sing. I have to sing goofy, in order to sing. I have to sing stupid "

"Tell me what I should do. Just tell me.I'll do it."

"I feel like men are more romantic than women. When we get married we marry, like, one girl, 'cause we're resistant the whole way until we meet one girl and we think I'd be an idiot if I didn't marry this girl she's so great. But it seems like girls get to a place where they just kinda pick the best option.."

"In my experience, the prettier a girl is, the more nuts she is, which makes you insane. "

"How can you trust your feelings when they just disappear like that? "

blue Valentine

"I now walk into the wild!"

“you know, no fucking watch, no map, no axe, no nothing. No nothing. Just be out there. Just be out there in it. You know, big mountains, rivers, sky, game. Just be out there in it, you know?"

"make a radical change in your life style and begin to bodly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been too hesitant to attempt.So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservation, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future.The very basic core of a man's living spirit is his passion for adventure.The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences and hence there is no greater joy than to have a new and different sun.If you want to get more out of life,you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter style of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy.But once you become accustomed to such a life, you will see its fyll meaning and its incredible beauty.”

“My point is that you do not need me or anyone else around to bring new kind of light in your life.It is simply waiting out there for you to grasp it, and all you have to do is reach for it. The only person you are fighting is yourself and your stubbornness to engage in new circumstances."

"The fragility of crystal is not a weakness but a fineness. My parents understood that fine crystal glass had to be cared for or may be shattered.” 

"Some people feel like they don't deserve love.They walk away quietly into empty spaces, trying to close the gaps of the gaps of the past."

When a young person is moved by passion and feels compelled to go on this sort of quest, I think you have to let him. You can't stop him. In our culture we don't have formal rights of passage like in some ancient cultures. Subjecting yourself to risk.. may be something you have to go through to be a man or a woman." 

"What if I were smiling and running into your arms?Would you see then what I see now?"

“you are wrong if you think that the joy of life comes principally from the joy of human relationships. God’s place is all around us, it is in everything and in anything we can experience. People just need to change the way they look at things.”

“I now walk into the wild.” 

"in reality, nothing is more danerous to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future."

“Its not always necessary to be strong, but to feel strong.” 

“It is easy, when you are young, to believe that what you desire is no less than what you deserve, to assume that if you want something badly enough, it is your God-given right to have it.”

“what more can the heart of a man desire?"

“Sometimes he tried too hard to make sense of the world, to figure out why people were bad to each other so often.”

"I don't want to know what time it is. I don't want to know what day it is or where I am. None of that matters.”

 "When you forgive, you love. And when you love, God's light shines upon you." 

"Happiness is only real when it is shared."

“But [Everett] and McCandless, at least they tried to follow their dream. That’s what was great about them. They tried. Not many do.”

Jon Krakauer